DEAR MISS MANNERS:

In our increasingly tech-saturated world, it's become alarmingly common to witness technology amplifying—and sometimes creating—instances of bad behavior. Today, I'm seeking your guidance on a particular habit that consistently irks me: the practice of repeatedly pressing a car's key fob, causing it to emit a loud, unnecessary chirp.

This seemingly minor action, repeated countless times throughout the day, has become a pervasive annoyance. It's a sound that disrupts peace, startles those nearby, and serves no practical purpose beyond the apparent satisfaction of the person doing it. Why do people feel the need to announce their vehicle locking with such fanfare? Is it a subconscious desire for attention? A lack of consideration for others?

I've observed this behavior in parking lots, residential streets, and even outside shops. It's a constant reminder of how technology, intended to simplify our lives, can inadvertently foster inconsiderate habits. While I appreciate the convenience of keyless entry, the unnecessary repetition of the locking chirp feels like a blatant disregard for common courtesy.

Is there a Miss Manners solution to this technological transgression? Should I politely confront those who engage in this practice, or is it best to simply endure the chirping symphony?

Sincerely,

A Chirped-Out Reader

Miss Manners Responds

Dear Chirped-Out Reader,

You've stumbled upon a fascinating intersection of technology and social etiquette—a place where convenience clashes with consideration. You are absolutely correct to be bothered by this repetitive chirping. While the technology itself is neutral, the *behavior* surrounding it is decidedly rude.

The root of the problem, as you suspect, likely lies in a combination of factors. Some individuals may be oblivious to the annoyance they are causing, simply not realizing that the repeated chirp is disruptive. Others may be seeking a fleeting moment of attention, however subtle. And, unfortunately, some may be intentionally flaunting their access to a technological convenience, perhaps as a way to assert a sense of modernity or status.

Confronting the individual directly is rarely the most effective approach, as it can lead to defensiveness and an unpleasant exchange. However, remaining silent and passively enduring the chirping is equally unsatisfying.

Instead, Miss Manners suggests a more subtle strategy. If the situation allows (for example, if you are standing nearby when the person locks their car), you could offer a gentle, non-accusatory comment such as, “Oh, I didn't realize that chirp was so loud!” or “That’s quite the announcement!” The goal is to raise awareness without directly criticizing their behavior.

More generally, it’s a reminder to all of us that even seemingly minor technological conveniences should be used with consideration for those around us. Just because a feature exists doesn't mean it should be employed without thinking about the potential impact on others. A little awareness can go a long way in preserving social harmony, even in a world filled with chirping cars.

Sincerely,

Miss Manners